Resilience Part 1: Saying No

 

Resilience Part 1: Saying No



I would like to share with you only some of the tips I have learned in Personal Resilience Workout which make us to think in what we have to focus on.

What is resilience? Resilience is the ability to cope with streams stress broken events, those times or occasions where we feel like there is too much going on. Resilience is a successful adaptation to adversity or stress.

Resilient people are who under difficult times, they can adapt and they can respond. In other words, it's about our coping strategies.

Anytime have you asked why some people don't see stressed? Do they never get stressed? Yes, but we have different tolerance levels.

Sometimes we don't know to say NO. Saying NO because we tend to want to be helpful. Saying  no seems like rejection. Maybe the first step we can say is:  Yes but…

-Yes I can do this but It will be longer than we hope because I’m busy…

-It will be more expensive than we hope because it’s going to cost me time resources.

-Can I cover yet to it, it’s not creating some boundaries around to itself.

-I’d like to help you but on this occasion, there is a lot of much to do.

-I’d like to help you but I’m really sorry…

That gives us some confidence to be more assertive. To be assertive is protecting our rights.

When somebody comes to us giving us a deadline when in reality is not always the real deadline, then having this discussion and verbalizing things we can organize priorities in order not to can be delayed. It will be more convenient for everybody.

When you say yes to one person, you are saying no to everything else and everyone else that you could be expending time with. Who really appreciate this, who gains and benefits to this? There is no point on us adding stress levels and complaint. We cannot press a terrible band for short periods once in a while.

Resilient people have this features:

·         Resilient people have a positive image of the future. That is, they maintain a positive outlook, and envision brighter days ahead.

·         Resilient people have solid goals, and a desire to achieve those goals.

·         Resilient people are empathetic and compassionate, however, they don't waste time worrying what others think of them. They maintain healthy relationships, but don't bow to peer pressure.

·         Resilient people never think of themselves as victims – they focus their time and energy on changing the things that they have control over.

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